Tell yourself the truth - be brutally honest. Even if you don't tell another soul.
If something isnt working. Tell yourself so. Then ask: What do I really, really want? What do I need to stop doing to have it? What do I need to start doing to have it? Is it possible there is a gift here that will help me?
Go within and ask for direction, listen to the whispers and follow.
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